7 WAYS TO BE LOVERS FOREVER IN MARRIAGE
You can be in your marriage and enjoy it forever; you can be lovers forever in your marriage. All you need is the skill to be a great friend, a good partner and lover boys and girls no matter how old your marriage is. How to be lovers forever in marriage:
- ACCEPTANCE: In the lives of two love birds, acceptance is a key factor. You can’t love someone you do not accept. To live together forever as lovers, you must accept your spouse’s stature, height, complexion, facial looks and everything about him or her. Begin to see your spouse as someone having the best height, set of teeth, complexion, tummy, qualification, hair, face and be proud of his or her profession. (Song of Solomon 4: 10).
- FORGIVENESS: Marriage cannot last if forgiveness is not part of it. In marriage, you will offend your spouse, but what will help you to stay married is your ability to forgive. Make up your mind to forgive; being generous with forgiveness will make your marriage to last (Colossians 3: 13).
- DEVELOP TEAM MINDEDNESS: Successful couples are not extraordinary people; they are people with excellent team spirit. It follows logically that a marriage cannot work when a couple relates with solo mindedness (one mind). Team spirit enhances the health of a marriage. So drop solo thoughts, eating, dressing, purchasing and sleeping alone. That is a self cantered existence. Be a team player. Talk, walk, play, dress, sleep, build and invest as a team. Team spirit will insure your marriage against satanic influence, in-laws and third party encroachment (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
- EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION: Couples communicate; great lovers communicate effectively. Effective communication is the fuel that keeps lovers going. Effective communication involves better understanding, adequate choice of words, right timing, sincerity, truthfulness, openness and continuity. Let there be no dark room in your union; communicate effectively (Colossians 4:6).
- DO AWAY WITH NEGATIVE EMOTIONS: Though you plan to live together as soul mates you may end up living like cat and rat if you don’t deal with negative emotions. Divest your negative emotions like excessive demonstration of anger, retaliation, vengeance, malicious statements and attitudes. Also do away with negative thoughts, interpretations, unfriendliness and negative statements. These negative emotions can destroy any marriage if left unchecked. Seek for help; go for counselling on how to overcome them and get a copy of my book: YOUR CHARACTER IS YOUR MARRIAGE (Ephesians 4:31).
- TOGETHERNESS: Togetherness means that you and your spouse have been joined together to form a single entity. You can’t arrive at this point accidentally; you have to work it out by lots of coordinated activities like eating together, sleeping on the same bed in the same room, putting on the same clothes, praying together, going to church together, playing, strolling and other activities that build and strengthen intimacy in marriage. They make you become inseparable (Colossians 3:14).
- PRAYER IS THE KEY: Prayer plays a strategic role in the making of a successful home. Many forces may militate against your marriage; you will need prayers to stop them. Create time to pray together for your love life, attitude, emotions, unity, pregnancy and delivery. Take time out to pray for your job, ministry, children and many more.
.......................................CHRIST IS COMING...........................................