Students, especially undergraduates do a lot of stupid things their parent would never know. Some of these things are so horrible some parents would go as far as disowning these young chaps if they got to know
Let's pick just 6 of them:
1) Inflated School Fees and Other Levies: I remember friends who would draw a list of non-existing fees just to ensure they inflate their school fees. School fees that cost about N15,000 was presented to be as much as N60,000 or more and the innocent parent is forced to run helter–skelter to raise the money. Once the money arrives, the remaining balance is spent on phones, television, shoes, Brazilian hair and sometimes on boyfriends and girlfriends. Such a waste!
2. Cohabitation: when students are drunk with lust, the ladies (especially) pack their bags and move in with their boyfriends where they cohabit as couples throughout their stay in school. When their parents call, they pretend as if nothing of such nature is happening. Some of these girls get so busy with house chores as they cook for their boyfriends and their friends that they hardly have time for their academics. Whereas, their parents are never aware that their children had given themselves up in marriage instead of schooling. What a world!
3. Double-Character: I remember a friend having to run up and down looking for hijab to cover herself when her parents suddenly appeared one day on campus looking for her. She was expected to be on hijab at all times as a daughter of an Alhaji but my friend preferred the skimpy tops and fitted jeans that displayed her massive backside and sexy body.
Also, there were pastors' daughters who tied big scarf and are without jewelries and makeup when travelling home to their parents but are club girls when in school. There were yahoo boys who had big cars on campus, but would never take such cars home. Their parents weren't aware. They are one thing at home with their parents but at school, they are something else
4. Hiding of Academics Flaws and Fails: students hardly tell their parents about their carry-overs and consequently, extra years. Some of them amass as many as four to five carry-overs in just one semester as a result of their lackadaisical attitudes towards learning. Some of them hardly attend classes and so when they fail they hide it. Some are still struggling with outstanding courses when their parents thought they had graduated three or four years before. They just cook up one lie or the other. A child who succeeds in fooling his parents over these things for several years, how would he not fool his spouse when he gets married?
5. Life Outside Campus: some students go as far as traveling out of their country where they school to another country for weeks without their parents knowing. Some parents would think their children are somewhere in Nsukka or Ibadan studying, whereas the fellow is in a flat just a few blocks away from them or is somewhere clubbing with some senators in Abuja or had traveled with some friends to one village somewhere in Anambra.
6. Shameful Acts: it's rare to see a student who is rusticated as a result of cultism, theft or exam malpractices open up to his/her parents. Neither would you see a student confess how she had aborted pregnancies or got involved with men that are old enough to be her father. Those days in school, we had students who were full time prostitutes, some dealt in selling their nude pictures to men who posted it on the internet and so many horrible things. In most cases, these things are kept within and lies upon lies are manufactured to parents whenever these issues come up
Dear undergraduate,
Our parents are not just stakeholders in our lives, they are angels through whom God brought us to the world and so, God expects that we honour them in every way. Acting as if we can always fool our parents is the reason why many never have a successful life. Many would come out of school but would never amount to anything with their certificates because such certificates are cursed. You can't dishonour your parents and not see God's anger
If you did any of these weird things as a student, or you're still doing it right now, it is important that you stop and apologise to your parents. If they sent you to that school and you did all that stuff but comes home to tell them all is well, then you owe them. That you've forgotten because it's been many years now or that it did you no harm doesn't mean it is gone. You've only swept it under the carpet. One of life's principles is that for every action, there is a corresponding reaction. Therefore, whatever evil you do is coming back to hunt you. If you don't break that curse now, your children will soon do much worse to you
It won't kill you nor your parents, if they are still alive, to place a call through if you can't meet them one on one. Just say
"dad, I want to apologise for the stupid things I did while in school."
God doesn't forgive sins for which forgiveness is not diligently sought and which restitution is not made. All you need to do is repent and say "am sorry!"
Dear Parent, include this in your prayers: "dear Lord, I don't know the sins my son or daughter might have committed against me without my knowledge. Whatever it is, I forgive him/her. Please, forgive him. Do not let him/her suffer as a result of any of his/her sins against me or my husband/wife. Amen."
God bless you..........